My name is Stewie aka Nicholas Stewart. I am the father of two amazing children and I’ve been married to an incredible woman for the last 15 years. By trade, I am a software developer and have a bachelor’s degree in Computer Science.

My Quest

For the past 20 years, I’ve been plagued by a few questions: What’s the most effective way to live in harmony with other people? What is the right way to live? What does it mean to be a good human?

I’ve analyzed people, their interactions, and how they go about achieving their goals. I’ve read dozens of books about interpersonal communication, relationships, and achievement. I worked for many different companies and spent time reflecting on things that went well and things that went wrong. And just as importantly, I’ve reflected on the parts I played. I’ve studied Buddhism and Taoism and have a peripheral knowledge of a dozen other world religions. I’ve explored how they solve human problems.

I don’t claim to have all the answers, but I think I have a few ideas. Within these blog posts are the things that I wish someone had sat me down and told me when I became an adult. Or maybe people did but I was too stubborn to listen. Hopefully, you’ll get something out it.

Random things about me

Myers–Briggs Type Indicator: INTJ

Hogwarts House: Ravenclaw

Books I recommend

Questions & Answers

Q: If you could give one piece of advice to pass on to the next generation, what would it be?

A: 2 things: 1) You need other people, so take care of your relationships. 2) It takes 1,000 hours to become competent in a skill, so pick something and stick with it.


Q: How do you deal with doubt in your work?

A: I focus on the long term goal and accept that it takes 1,000 hours to become competent in a skill. So what I produce today will be subpar because I haven’t reached my 1,000 hours. But I’m inching closer.


Q: What are the advantages and disadvantages of being your height

A: I’m short for a man, like really short. But if I’m ever in a Jason Bourne situation, where I need to disappear in a crowd of people, I’m golden.


Q: How often do you read your horoscope? Do you believe there’s any truth to it?

A: Never, really. There’s enough truth-sounding info in them that nearly anyone can find a way to apply them to their life.

Songs I like

  • Garth Brooks - Friends in Low Places
  • U2 - Bad, With or without you
  • Sarah McLachlan - Building A Mystery
  • Don Henley - End of the Innocence
  • Shakira - Toneladas, Ciega Sordomuda
  • Jewel - Who Will Save Your Soul
  • Blues Traveler - Hook
  • The Lumineers - Falling, Hey ho
  • Sara Bareilles - King of Anything
  • Phil Collins - Everyday
  • Bruce Hornsby - Mandolin Rain, The way it is, The Valley Road
  • Lorde - Royals
  • Awolnation - Sail
  • Alphaville - Forever Young
  • Good Charlotte - Lifestyles of the Rich & Famous
  • Modest Mouse - Missed The Boat
  • Elefante - Gordito Tracks
  • Buena Vista Social Club - El Cuarto de Tula
  • Peter Cetera - One Good Woman, Glory of Love, Even A Fool Can See
  • Paula Cole - Where have all the cowboys gone.
  • The Cranberries - Dreams, Linger
  • Eagles: Hotel California
  • John Mellencamp - Cherry Bomb
  • Van Morrison - Brown Eyed Girl
  • CCR - Bad Moon Rising, Lookin’ Out My Back Door, Down on the Corner
  • Ray Charles - Hit The Road Jack, Georgia On My Mind
  • Otis Redding - The Dock of the Bay
  • Fleetwood Mac - Dreams, Landslide
  • Beatles - Here comes the Sun, Nowhere man, Penny Lane
  • Stevie Wonder - Isn’t She Lovely
  • Bruce Springsteen - Dancing In the Dark
  • Bon Jovi - Wanted Dead Or Alive
  • Metallica - Nothing Else Matters
  • Guns N’ Roses - November Rain
  • Rod Stewart - Rhythm Of My Heart
  • Berlin - Take My Breathe Away
  • Aerosmith - Dream On
  • Santana - Smooth ft. Rob Thomas, The Game Of Love ft. Michelle Branch, Into The Night ft. Chad Kroeger
  • Sting - Fields of gold
  • Sade - Smooth Operator