Boundaries: Who Is This Book For?
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This is part of my online book on Healthy Boundaries Made Simple.
This online book is for anyone who struggles to enforce healthy boundaries.
But can I tell you a secret? The biggest reason we don’t enforce personal boundaries: We don’t know where they are. Not really. No one ever sat us down and said, “This is where your boundaries begin.” As a result, people walk all over us, and we second-guess ourselves about whether anything terrible even happened. We feel mistreated but have nothing to point to and say, “You’ve crossed this line!”
Our boundaries are fuzzy and shadowy and amorphous. We’re unclear on them until it’s too late, and we’ve allowed—or invited!—someone to tread on us like a dirty doormat.
If you’re…
- Unsure where boundaries began, this book is for you.
- Unclear when it’s ok to push back, this book is for you.
- Unsure how to enforce boundaries while getting your needs met, this book is for you.
Who is this book NOT for?
If you want to “teach” another adult about boundaries, this book is not for you. (Honestly, others don’t need you to “fix” them!) A huge part of respecting boundaries is trusting other people to manage their lives. You can change your relationships, but not by changing other people.
If you want a quick fix or silver bullet, this book is not for you. The ideas are simple to understand but difficult to implement. As the old saying goes, they’re common sense but not common practice. You’ll need a lot of courage, and you’ll break a bunch of old habits. But if you’re ready to make lasting changes, read on!