There can be only one permanent revolution — a moral one; the regeneration of the inner man. How is this revolution to take place? Nobody knows how it will take place in humanity, but every man feels it clearly in himself. And yet in our world everybody thinks of changing humanity, and nobody thinks of changing himself.
— Leo Tolstoy

Hey, friends!

Welcome to my long blog series on how to be a good person. Over time I’ll add more posts, but I’ve listed what’s published so far, and it’s a good start.

I broke the series into four sections:

  1. Stop controling others
  2. Stop letting others control you
  3. Follow The Golden Rule
  4. Create a stable life

Stop controling others

Stop letting others control you

To be passive is to let others decide for you. To be aggressive is to decide for others. To be assertive is to decide for yourself. And to trust that there is enough, that you are enough.
— Edith Eva Eger

In this blog post series, I’ll walk you through the basics of how to stand up for yourself without putting others down.

Follow The Golden Rule

Most people know the Golden Rule means to treat others the way you want to be treated. But sometimes folks get hung up on how to apply it. A person might interpret it literally: “I want someone to bring me a cold can of Diet Mountain Dew right now; therefore, I should bring a cold can of Diet Mountain Dew to everyone right now.”

But I don’t know any mindful people who operate with such a strict interpretation. Instead, they’d say, “I have some particular food and drink preferences that I want others to respect; therefore, I’ll respect others’ food and drink preferences.”

And more generally, “I want people to recognize that my values and priorities might be different from theirs; therefore, I need to recognize that their values and priorities might be different from mine.”

With that out of the way, let’s dive into applications of the Golden Rule.

Basic concepts

Relationships

Marriage

Build horizontal relationships

Create a stable life